Friday, March 28, 2014

Ebook Giveaway - Survivor: A Journey Through My Never Ending Nightmare


When Angela Caito met him she thought she had the man of her dreams. She was treated as some would only dream, a true queen.  She was given gifts, flowers, pampered on a daily bases.  However, that would soon end after becoming pregnant with her son.  It was that night that the man of her dreams changed right before  her eyes. She went from being very social and having a lot of friends, to soon having nothing or a desire to go out. He had total control of her life, and then she realized to save herself and her son she had to do something. She had to plan her escape and she had to do it using extreme caution.  One false move her life could be gone.  

While complete details has not been released, Angela Caito released exciting news. She has recently been contacted from a well known public figure. They was sent a copy of her book from someone, and now want to make a movie from her book after reading it. Congratulations to Angela, and this is more reason to read this book. 

This nonfiction of Angela's life is something many woman face today, domestic violence.

  • Every 9 seconds a woman is beat or assaulted
  • Domestic Violence is the leading cause of Injury among woman
  • 1 in 5 teenage have been in violent relationship with boyfriends
  • More then 3 woman are murdered by their partners everyday in the US.
  • More then 3 million witness domestic abuse in their home every year
  • Most of the incidents are never reported


For your chance to receive a free ebook copy of, Survivor: A Journey Through My Never Ending Nightmare. To enter you do not have to do all options, it just gives you more chances, after entering your name and email address then pushing the arrows forming the circle. Be sure to come back daily for more chances to win.  Giveaway begins on March 28, 2014 at 11:59 PM central, and ends on April 25, 2014 at 11:59 PM central,  in which winner will be notified by email within 24 hours of closing. To enter you give the right for me to share your name as winner (no other information will be given to third parties). Winner must respond within 48 hours of when email is sent.
This holds the company harmless in the event that the prize or sweepstakes in some way negatively impacts the winner; this is often done alongside the certification of winner, where the winner must furnish proof of identity, address and birth date to win the prize, and at the same time sign the liability release

No stopping her now



The life as a child for Teagan Urzendowski would change when she turned six years old. This is when her paternal Aunt and Uncle would start abusing her. They would over the next course of four years abuse her physically, mentally, and sexually even raping her. DCFS came involved, but as in many cases with no physical evidence they walked free.

Teagan would start at eight years old self-injury and it would continue till she turned nineteen. She would do it once or twice a week, and up to twice a day when she did. It was her way to release her emotions and pain. Self-injury would snap her out of the flashbacks. People would ask her what hurt, she would just point to her new injury. She now realizes this is not the coping skill she once thought it was.

She has attempted suicide four times, hospitalized for mental illnesses over ten times both outpatient and inpatient hospitalizations.

Teagan is diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and Dissociative Identity Disorder both related to the abuse. She as well diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder Depressive type, which was triggered from the abuse. These are controlled on Paxil, Prazosin, and Risperdal, as she is seeing a psychologist. At times they do EMDR ( Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) to help reprocess a memory, to keep her from bringing out negative thoughts. It has been a long process getting her on the right medication for her, trying many different types.

I asked her who supported her through all of this. She stated, “I have a lot of support from friends, family, and my dog. I just recently started opening up with my family about all that happened, but they have always been there for me every step of the way.”

When we got to speaking on inspiration and who inspired her, her response made me very happy to hear. “The first person who inspired me was myself simply because I was too stubborn to let them win. When I first attempted suicide it was my best friend who pulled me back from the car I ran in front of. She saw something in me that I couldn't see and since then has been a huge source of support. Also, my family inspires me. After all we've been through together they don't give up so they help me realize I can't give up either,” she stated. This would show me that the blame is not of herself, like many survivors do and has to learn it wasn't their fault.

Teagan did not let this abuse and her diagnosis' stop her. She started attending University of St. Francis and living in a dorm, working towards Associates Degree in Human Services. However, it ended up not being a good place for her. She didn't let that stop her though. She would go to finish her associates at Argosy University. November 11, 2012 she completed her Bachelor's Degree in Psychology. She is determined to be disabled as of right now. This does not stop her from using her degree helping others. She states,”Helping others is all I want to do with life, even if not getting paid for it.”

I asked her what she would like to tell other survivors. “The main thing I would like to tell other survivors is to never give up and dream big. Nothing is impossible in life. Success to me isn't measured by achieving alone, it also includes all the times you were pushed down, got back up, and tried again. Never stop trying!”

I first met Teagan on Myspace when she was having a very hard time in her life. I then would start a chat blog where she would soon start blogging about her feelings. We watched her change right before our eyes in this blog. I then got the honor of meeting her in person at a Child Abuse Rally and Vigil in Chicago we was hosting. I would then get to meet her again at another event. For a period she was a member of Baby James Foundation, a group I started for children of abuse and their families. I hope at some point she is able to join us again. She is one remarkable lady that has went through a lot not letting it stop her. I want to close with a song that makes me think of Teagan, because she never let anything stop her.


Tuesday, March 25, 2014

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Monday, March 24, 2014

Sverve Find My Color Sweepstakes

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Friday, March 21, 2014

Survivor: A Journey Through My Never Ending Nightmare - Domestic Abuse Survivor, Angela Caito




When Angela met her now ex he was what every woman would dream of. A sweet, nice man who daily would surprise with gifts and flowers. She had never treated this way by anyone before.

They had been together for quite sometime, and expecting a baby in only a few weeks. It was as if he just snapped for no reason, when he attacked Angela. This was the start of a different man, that day she was punched several times and raped. She never expected this at all, in fact they hadn't even argued.

For the next five years things just continued. He continued to rape her, held guns to her head, tied her to trees, locked in a dog cage that he buried in the ground for almost a week, doused her with gas then tossing a lit matches at her while having her duct taped into a sheet, and stabbed her with tools. These were just some of his actions over this course of five years.

Angela would start her plan on escaping that took several years to do. This wasn't an easy task of just walking away. She knew if she let him even get a hint what she was planning her, her son or both would be dead now. She confided in a friend, found a safe place to stay, and a car to get her there. In time she made the escape safely for both her and her son.

He never physically hurt her son, however if affected her son mentally. When her son was three years old, he would cuss her out and get very upset. You would of never thought of a three year old boy saying any of those words. He was learning from the actions of his dad. Angela says, "Those things stick with kids, no matter how much you try to make them go away. It took a long time to be able to get my son to stop saying some of the things that he had always heard."

Angela is now diagnosed with PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) and Agoraphobia. After almost nine years she still has nightmares. Unless she absolutely has to she doesn't leave the house, seldom leaving at night at all. Sleeping is very hard for her, as she suffers from insomnia. Her anxiety attacks, which started twelve years ago when she was still with him, will get pretty bad able to now make them go away on her own.

When Angela is asked how she was different from the abuse, "Before this happened to me..I was a pretty trusting person. I always assumed that people were good until they proved me wrong. After this happened though..I assume that people are bad and it takes a long time before I will trust them at all. I don’t open up to people now like I used to before I met him. I also know now what women, as well as men, who are in abusive relationships go through. I understand their fears now and why they quite often don’t leave even when others feel that they should get away. I know just how difficult it really can be."

She has since written a book to share her story. She wanted to try to help herself bring closure to her past, as help others see abuse does not go away. That it isn't always so easy to get away, and sometimes it's difficult to start over with nothing. To show that all that matters is saving your life and your child's is all that matters.

Her book Survivor-A Journey Through My Never Ending Nightmare can be found at any of the following.

"I just hope that if anyone hears my story and what happened to me that they will realize that no matter how many times they pray, or beg, or try to convince the abuser that they love them that abusers don’t change!! Well, they do change, but not in good ways at all. They get worse over time. No one is worth hurting for. No one is worth risking dying for. Being in an abusive relationship is deadly. It isn’t love when the one you’re with is hurting you. Whether they’re beating you or calling you names or controlling you in any way..THAT is not love and I just hope that there will be even one person who will wake up and will get away if they’re being abused," stated Angela.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Purex Crystals Limited Edition Fabulously Fresh Review and Giveaway

Purex Crystals Limited Edition Fabulously Fresh Review and Giveaway



was provided with the featured product in order to give an honest review.  No other compensation was received.  My thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.”


I was so happy to be able to try Purex Crystals, especially seeing that it was the Limited Edition Fabulously Fresh scent!




The picture on the bottle immediately had me dreaming of how Spring is so near. I was dying to open up the bottle and give it a try.


Sure enough the smell was just to die for. I could just let the crystals set out all day long. In fact a friend of mine told me she put some in her warmer and they smelt so good. Even my son loved the smell and didn't want to put them down.


The new Purex Crystals Limited Edition will...
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    • Does not reduce the absorbency of towels
    • Safe for all loads, including children's sleepwear and athletic wear


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Now here is your chance to win the new Purex Crystals. Three lucky winners will win a coupon for a free bottle of the Purex Crystals Limited Edition Fabulously Fresh. To enter you do not have to do all options, it just gives you more chances, after entering your name and email address. Be sure to come back daily for more chances to win.  Giveaway begins on March 20, 2014 and ends on April 20, 2014 at 11:59 PM central,  in which winner will be notified by email within 24 hours of closing. To enter you give the right for me to share your name as winner (no other information will be given). Winner must respond within 48 hours of when email is sent.

This holds the company harmless in the event that the prize or sweepstakes in some way negatively impacts the winner; this is often done alongside the certification of winner, where the winner must furnish proof of identity, address and birth date to win the prize, and at the same time sign the liability release

Friday, March 14, 2014

Friday Blessing in Disguise, The story of Charles Stecker and Lil Eddie

Charles J. Stecker Jr. and his little brother, Edward J. Stecker, were removed from their birth parent's home because of founded reports of abuse. What should have been safety for the two of them however, sadly didn't turn out that way. On February 28, 1967 just 13 days after arriving to their second foster home, in the care of Lillian Bedford, 2 year old, Eddie was murdered. He died in his brother Charles's arms. Charles was only 4 years old at the time. Charles also was injured, his left elbow was shattered and to this day he is unable to fully extend it. What is real concerning is the fact that there were red flags that should have been seen in the home of Lillian Bedford. Just ten months prior to the placement of Charles and Eddie, another child died in her care.

Charles states that after recuperating at the hospital and leaving the rehab for his shattered left elbow he was placed in an orphanage where he was reunited with his birth sister. A short time later they were placed together in a home where they remained from August 1967 to July 1973. Charles credits that foster home for giving him the only truly stable years of his childhood. As happens in many foster home situations, unfortunately he was not allowed to remain there. After the death of his brother Charles would remain in the Philadelphia Child Welfare System's care for another 9 years. During Charles' 10 year stay in the child welfare system he had been placed in five different foster homes, two orphanages along with a rehab center. He was returned to his birth mother in 1976, she was who caused the original abuse that caused him to go into foster care. He would go on to live with her throughout his teenage years, dealing with even more abuse then he ever had before.

In 1981 Charles was finally able to escape his birth mother's abusive home. Charles stated, “My life began a slow gradual positive turnaround and is still in that process to this very day.” Charles has devoted his life to not only finding his own life answers, but helping others find theirs as well. “My past experiences have equipped me to assist others who have experienced negativity of any form in their life, especially in the areas of abuse” Charles stated.

He has formed two organizations, The International Child Abuse Prevention Task Force Inc. and Chahlie's Angels Empowerment Programs Llc.

  • International Child Abuse Prevention Task Force

About

The International Child Abuse Task Force Inc. is comprised of a diverse group of child advocates who take a pro-active role in protecting children within their families, community and beyond.
Mission
The International Child Abuse Prevention Task Force Inc. works to enable as well as empower individuals and groups devoted to eliminating crimes committed against children. Through our diverse membership we implement and promote programs which protect children, helping to create a safer world where they may grow and thrive.
Description
Our members come together to share ideas, resources and tools allowing one another to contribute effectively to cultivating a safer world for our youth. We work together to generate solution based preventive programs, promote positive public policy and integrate the children's family members into the plan for the child or children coming from these abusive situations. This aids in reducing risk to our young. Helping to achieve our goal of eliminating crimes against children, while offering the education they require to internalize ways they may also protect themselves.
General Information
We believe that protecting children is about reducing risk. When we disrupt the cycle of violence we help prevent predatory crimes against children. Therefore ICAP Task Force Inc. focuses on integrating and implementing programs which safe guard children by offering the resources and support necessary to avoid exposing them to circumstances which consistently contribute to abuse.

  • Chahlie's Angels Empowerment Programs
About
 Charles offers "FREE" Seminars via Webinair or in Person.
Description
Are you seeking a deeper sense of purpose in your life while being authentic and real? Do you want to be able to accept your imperfections and continue to grow? Would you like to make choices and choose options in your life that would bring action to your passions? Does bringing success to others bring enthusiasm to you? Are you ready to take responsibility for your life while breaking the grip of fear on your ability to reach out for support? If you answered, "YES" to any, all or just a few of these questions then you, your organization, group, church, company or event need, him to teach, mentor and support "YOU" in becoming All that "YOU" Can Be. Look for an Upcoming "FREE" Webinair that he will be offering. For Personal Appearances he will need transportation, lodging and meals provided, Along with a managable appearance fee. Charles is not looking for money to be overspent on him. He will travel in Coach Seating on a Plane, he has even sat on a Bus for 2 to 3 days to get where he was needed. He enjoys Home Cooked Meals, he will eat Boxed Lunches. Sleeping on the Floor, Couch, Guest Room or Tent is what he'd prefer instead of a hotel room. Charles says, "I'd rather NOT have big money spent on my needs. I'd rather have that additional money be invested into the needs of the child or children and their families that we are empowering. Expect a Life Changing Breakthrough... After attending one of Charles's Seminars you will be afforded a One on One Opportunity with him being being the facilitator in your process to change your life. Think of him as your Mentor

Charles has short term goals of getting both of his companies fully up and operational within the next 12 months. However, his goals don't stop there. His mid-term goal is to get his records from his childhood and write his book.Perhaps even writing a movie script. That goal he hopes to complete by 2017. His long term goal is, “To leave this world with a legacy of children being free from the crimes that have permeated the lives of children for centuries while also empowering themselves and others for generations to come” He needs all of our assistance in order to achieve these goals.


I had the pleasure of meeting Charles when I hosted a Child Abuse Prevention Rally and Vigil in Chicago. He was a huge inspiration, and became a wonderful friend to our whole family, especially my son and S.B.S. Survivor, James.
If you ever need a speaker or know anyone who does I highly recommend you contact Charles. You may reach out to him on facebook at https://www.facebook.com/Servant.of.Truth
He has also set up a petition asking that the City of Philadelphia release all records pertaining his brother's murder. If you would please read, sign and share this petition it would be greatly appreciated. http://www.change.org/petitions/r-seth-williams-release-all-records-relating-to-my-brothers-murder







When I asked Charles for a closing thought to share with fellow survivors this is what he had to say “During our childhoods or while in the midst of an abusive situation in our adult lives, choices were made for us that weren't always conducive to a positive outcome, some of those choices were our very own, while most weren't. In and or during our adult lives when we become free from those negative experiences of our past we should do all we can to make choices that will lead to a better outcome than what we were freed from. “




Friday, March 7, 2014

Friday Blessing in Disguise, Glenda Torres Talamantes and her new life

 
At the young age of seven, Glenda Torres Talamantes was placed into foster care due to physical and mental abused caused by her biological mother. Glenda says the abuse made her feel unwanted by many. As many abused children she had a hard time trusting individuals that came into her life. She had a low self esteem because of feeling rejected from the abuse. By the age of eight years and nine months she was placed in adoptive care. This is when her life as she knew it would change forever. 

Mr & Mrs. Torres already had children, however Mrs Torres wanted another baby and was unable to have one. This is when they went to the foster home where Glenda was. Before this day they never knew Glenda or even met her before. This was the first time they would learn of her life. At the age of eight years and nine months she was officially adopted. These are the ones Glenda considers her parents to this day. 

The Torres family gave Glenda a chance to another life, and able to live as a child. Even with everything that came along with raising an abused child they accepted her for her. Glenda states, "They accepted me with all my flaws and made me a part of their family. That was the best thing in life they could have done for me. I could never THANK them enough." 



Personally I have grown to know Glenda through about six years of social networking. She is a very spiritual, caring, loving woman that I myself has turned to. I would say the Torres family has raised a very remarkable young woman. I am sure when they first came into her life she never knew how much of a blessing they would be and remain today. 


 Friday is blessing day here on Blessing in Disguise. Each Friday will be featured a new individual who has been blessed in some way or is a blessing themselves. In hopes through these individuals others will be inspired. If you would like to be featured or know someone who would like to be please email me reneehutchinson1968@gmail.com

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Must have to make money online

I have had individuals come to me and ask how I go about making money online. While there are several ways to make money online I think it is important to start with what is needed to make earning a success. While some of these are not needed right up front for all programs, there will come a time it is very important to make even more of that money.

Yes, making money online is legit, and yes there is scams out there. However, anything I will be posting will be confirmed by me as being legit. Meaning it will be proven that I was paid by anyplace I post. I am posting this on my blog because money is needed and is a blessing for any of us who are struggling to make ends meet. For me this extra cash will help not only make ends meet but also getting my home turned into my dream home.

So what is needed?

1. Paypal - Paypal is very important if you want paid by cash and not by gift cards. I usually choose paypal route when possible because I need the cash and it tends to get to me faster.  It is very important that you follow step by step when you sign up. You must be sure to verify your account with paypal. If you do not it can cause issues when it comes time for a company to pay you.

2. Social networking sites - These sites are important when it comes time to share links, articles, reviews that you need to share. Why do you need to share? Sharing gets you clicks, clicks gets you more money. Sharing gets the companies noticed, them getting noticed gets you money.

Here is a list of social networks I highly recommend. For me these are listed in order of my preference. There are many others out there but these are what I find is used a lot. I would for sure get the first three right off.

Another key point on social networks that is important. Don't just jump in it and sign up to share links. You will soon get the image of being a spammer. Build each network to be about you both around what you do to make money, and you as you. No one wants to be friends on a social network with someone that clogs their feeds with nothing but links that really has no meaning to them.  When you share attempt to write a little why you find this link important and may be of interest. Share a little about you, post things that has nothing to do with your online earnings but about you and your life. Get friends and as many as you can. No don't just start clicking away to bring in friends, it won't work. But friends who shares your interests.  On facebook you can also make a page just for your online purpose. The key is you must work at it, it is nothing you can do over night. Stay tuned and you will see more on how I make money online, the legit way.